People say they are lonely, as if that’s a bad thing.
When I thought I was lonely, it felt like a bad thing. I suffered with the lonely story. I didn’t know who or what I was. I felt lost, like I needed someone or something or some situation to be complete.
Loneliness is a consuming and convincing resistance to the only actual state: Alone. It’s fear of the truth that makes us cling to the lie. Fortunately, there is no way to escape ourselves and our true, complete condition.
Loneliness is a custom-made reaction. It's a natural way to develop in an unhealthy, superficial, greedy, and dishonest fear-based society. We cling to the story of loneliness to make sense of a world that doesn’t make sense.
Alone, we can untangle the confusion.
In loneliness, there is opportunity. We can examine the misunderstandings, comparisons to others, and all the negative stories held deep within us. Stories about how we are insufficient, unlovable, undeserving, needy, broken, incomplete. If we study them enough they dissipate. The confusion can't withstand examination.
Feelings of loneliness are the perfect opportunity to roll up our sleeves and face ourselves and the confusion that blocks us from connecting with the supreme versions of ourselves: brave, kind, wise, authentic, easy, and whole.
Yoga brings us to our breath, our stillness, our Supreme version.
As we practice self-study, breath control, decency, stretching poses, sitting quietly, and all the other yogic tools of awareness, we observe our misunderstandings and confusions. These activities automatically turn our attention inward, where healing happens.
It is fear that avoids the mat and quiet. It is fear that convinces us that we aren’t enough and never could be. It is fear that feels lonely. It is fear that is afraid to look inward.
Only and always alone. The process of accepting the fact heals the experience of ourselves.
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